Before you get to know someone else, you need to know who you are yourself and you need to set clear boundaries for your relationship. Remember, everything you do today contributes to making you ready for your future partner. Start by asking yourself some simple questions (and be honest with yourself).
- Have I set clear boundaries that protect God’s plan for my life, including saving sex for marriage?
- Am I able to avoid compromising situations?
- Do I know who I am and what I want in a relationship?
- Do I have the time and energy to give to another person?
- Am I willing to listen when my partner wants to discuss something — even if it means not watching my favorite show or missing a chance to hang out with friends?
- Do I want my partner to spend every free second with me?
- Do I want to help my partner feel secure and comfortable regardless of the situation we’re in?
- Can I handle problems and make safe, responsible decisions?
- Can I stand up for my values and beliefs, even if my partner disagrees?
- Am I able to keep promises and things told to me in confidence?
- Does the idea of my partner having friends of the opposite sex make me uneasy?
- Can I and will I prioritize someone else’s needs above my own?
- Am I feeling pressured to be in a relationship just because everyone else is in one?
- Am I ready to share my thoughts, feelings, and emotions with another person?
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Think About It.
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Opening yourself up to someone begins with feeling good about yourself as a person. This means having a positive but realistic idea of the qualities you bring to a relationship.